Esther Perel’s Book Recommendations

10 Books Recommended by Esther Perel

1. Man’s Search for Meaning

Man's Search for Meaning

“The book I’ve probably gifted the most is Man’s Search for Meaning, since I’m 16.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Also recommended by David Blaine, Sandeep Maheshwari and Terry Crews

Man’s Search for Meaning is a 1946 book by Viktor Frankl.

2. Crime and Punishment

Crime and Punishment

“You can reread the Russians. They are timeless.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Also recommended by Vladimir Putin

Crime and Punishment is a 1866 novel by Fyodor Dostoevsky.

3. Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

“I think that this book is a classic for anyone who is thinking relationships.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Also recommended by Dustin Moskovitz

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life is a 1999 book by Marshall Rosenberg.

4. Sex at Dawn

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

“Esther Perel recommended this book on ‘The Tim Ferriss Show’.” – (Source)

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships is a 2013 book by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.

5. If This Is a Man

If This Is a Man

“One of the most powerful books one ought to read.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Also recommended by David Blaine

If This Is a Man is a 1947 book by Primo Levi.

6. Fighting for Your Marriage

Fighting for Your Marriage

“On its surface, it’s a book about marriage of course, but you just go one layer deeper and it’s a study of the underlying issues that shape the way that we relate.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Fighting for Your Marriage is a 1994 book by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, and Susan Blumberg.

7. Can Love Last?

Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time

“Was part of the spine of my book ‘Mating In Captivity.'” – Esther Perel (Source)

Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time is a book by Stephen A. Mitchell.

8. Breaking the Male Code

Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship

“I recommend for many of you.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship is a 2015 book by Robert Garfield.

9. Family Healing

Family Healing: Strategies for Hope and Understanding

“It will change your whole way of understanding relationships.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Family Healing: Strategies for Hope and Understanding is a 1993 book by Salvador Minuchin and Michael P. Nichols.

10. Liquid Life

Liquid Life

“I came one way and I finished the book and left another way.” – Esther Perel (Source)

Liquid Life is a 2005 book by Zygmunt Bauman.


Books Written by Esther Perel

1. The State of Affairs

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity is a 2017 book by Esther Perel.

2. Mating in Captivity

Mating in Captivity

Mating in Captivity is a 2006 book by Esther Perel.

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